Much could be written about this but basically I always like clients to feel that they are in charge of the session - they are paying for it after all - that they can say whatever they want or need to say in the session, even the really difficult or unsayable stuff or things that might not be ok to say in everyday life perhaps.
I really want to know when a client feels the sessions are not working for them in some way, that a change is needed, maybe a break, a different emphasis or approach.
Some people like to have things to think about or do in between sessions and I’m happy to support that - ultimately we are in the business of working with change whether that be about changing behaviour, new ways of thinking about things, changes in the way we relate to ourselves or others, healing, growth or transcendance.
So please be adventurous, feel free, ask for what you want, be prepared to say when you don’t understand or feel that things are progressing how you’d like. It’s your time and the last thing I want is for you to feel that it’s wasted.